For my daily devotional time each morning, I've been reading through the book of Proverbs. It talks a lot about wisdom vs foolishness. Today, one verse in particular really jumped out at me.
"A fool's displeasure is known at once, but whoever ignores an insult is sensible." (Prov 12:16 HSCB).
This verse is spot on (I mean, really, they all are LOL). But seriously, aren't we great at making our displeasure known immediately? What happens when that car pulls out in front of us a little too closely? Do we lay on the horn? What about when someone verbally insults us? We usually look for something to say about them as well. If customer service isn't up to par at a place of business, do we immediately complain to the management? Do we take it out of an owed tip? I look not only at my own life, but those of my children as well. When one kid hits the other, the one being hit lashes back. Children certainly don't have to be taught to show their displeasure, they do so from birth. But they do need to be taught when to hold their tongue about it.
Just look at the second part of that verse - "But whoever ignores an insult is sensible." Can you imagine the conflict that could be avoided if people would learn, by the grace of God, to be sensible? Many family disagreements could be avoided, divorce could be avoided.....actual wars might could be avoided. This doesn't mean for you to be a doormat and let people constantly spew insults your way. I think this may be referring to those instances where, if you let a comment just roll off your back, you could diffuse the whole situation by responding in love instead of retaliation or sarcasm. The wisdom and ability to do this can only come from God. It's hard for us humans to hold our tongues! No wonder the Bible refers to them as a two edged sword! Our tongues are powerful things....they can make or break a person. They can offer love or hate. They can bring forth compliments or complaints. They can build our children up or tear them down. They can offer a place of comfort or push people to the edge of self destruction. They can offer praise or steal joy.
It takes a very wise and self controlled person to be able to hold their tongue in the midst of an argument. I know that at times I can be more like the fool...making sure you know if I'm not pleased with you or the particular situation.
Just thought I'd share this on my blog today....that verse really jumped out!